RSVP’s. We’ve all been there. Attending, not attending, coordinating…somehow if your name is involved, you’re involved! But what’s the common courtesy of how and when to reply to your host? Oh, dear ones, it’s a must we carry on the fabulous etiquette tradition. So for this Mannerly Monday, I turned to Emily Post’s tips on not only the importance of an RSVP, but how to politely reply. Hola!
1. Take your cue from the invitation
If you received your invitation by e-mail, then an e-mailed response is acceptable. If the invitation is to a wedding and includes an enclosed card, then send your response by mail. You can judge the required response by the formality of the invitation itself.
2. Respond in a timely fashion
Generally it is best to reply as soon as possible. For written invitations responses are made within several days of receiving the invitation. For in-person or phoned invitations, you may provide your response when asked or await until you have checked your schedule. Simply let the person know that you will call as soon as possible.
3. Keep replies brief
There is no need to go into great detail if you must decline the invitation. Write a simple and polite note of regret. If you feel like you must offer an explanation, be sure it is brief.
4. Reply even if you have a potential conflict
If you would like to accept an invitation to an informal or casual event but have a tentative conflict, contact the host or hostess to explain the problem. If the event is formal, however, your delay might inconvenience the host, so it’s best to decline the invitation.
5. When replies aren’t requested
If the invitation does not specifically request that you RSVP, then a response is not necessary. However, it is always polite to notify the host when you cannot attend. A phone call will usually suffice, though you might send a personal note or an e-mail.
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